Faith- What To Do When You Need Patience

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Today as I am trying to pack to go on the yearly summer vacation I find myself needing patience. I am generally laid back and a pretty patient person (exceptions traffic and drive through Windows). I am not sure why but those two things tend to get under my skin especially a drive through if the people in the car with me do not know what they want or keep changing their mind. I get to the point of “just flipping order something”. Patience is required in life as we spend lots of time waiting at the doctor, stores, drive throughs, traffic, restaurants and in my case waiting on a woman (my wife and two daughters). Seems like it takes them forever to make up their mind on clothes and getting dressed.

Then when we go shopping it takes forever to go in the store and grab stuff. That turns into an all day shopping excursion and I have things to do at home. God wants us to be patient and patience in mentioned in his word in both the new and old testament. I have to exercise patience as a public school teacher and coach with teenagers. I have to get better at being patient and the only way I can do that is to work on it hard. Focus on it and ask the Lord for patience and grace in that process. Being patient is kind, loving, friendly, helpful, avoids stress and anxiety. Being patient is what God expects us to be when dealing with our family and friends. Being patient requires us to submit to Gods plan in our lives and live the best we can and “wait”. For me that is the hard part!

James 5: 7-8; Be patient, therefore, brothers, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient about it, until it receives the early and the late rains. You also, be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is at hand.

Psalm 37:39; Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For the evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land.

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Faith- Lukewarm Spirituality

I am 100% convicted of the title of todays faith based lesson. I have been a spiritual person since I was just a young boy but have had times in my life when I was lukewarm at best. In fact, I have been less than lukewarm at times in my journey with God. The bible refers to this as non being mindful or watchful of God’s work in your life. Life throws all kinds of curve balls at us and the Devil loves to step in and get between us and the Lord. Lukewarm spirit can be compared to lukewarm work habits, relationships and family matters.

If we are lukewarm we will face things that we are not prepared for and those things will take us down. We have to constantly be in prayer and seek guidance from God to make sure that we stay Red hot for God and not go lukewarm. You do not have to church every week to be red hot on fire for God. We choose our relationships with family, spouses, co-workers and God. We build habits within ourselves that determine how we do in these areas of our lives. Laziness creates lukewarm behaviors and lukewarm results.

God wants us to be more than lukewarm for him. He seeks us daily and consistently watches over us and wants us to reach back to him. We must not just seek him in bad times but at all times. God is never lukewarm and we should not be either. If we are lukewarm in a marriage then it will suffer. If we are lukewarm at a sporting event or when playing then out performance will suffer. If we are lukewarm at work then out performance will suffer.

I had to look at myself and think about my Luke warmness in life at times. I had to look at myself in all aspects to make sure I stayed on fire for God and that he can continue to influence me and lead me to what he wants me to be. Avoid be lukewarm by doing the following things in your life daily. This will keep you on fire in your relationships, career, outside activities and most importantly with God himself.

1- Pray everyday without fail. Failure to pray is failing to seek God in your life.

2- Check yourself to see where you stand in all aspects of your work life, family life and spiritual life.

3- Change what is broken. Get rid of old habits by creating good ones that are productive and never be lukewarm in anything you have passion about.

4- Work hard at all aspects of life and go for red hot in everything that is important to you.

5- Pray, Pray and Pray some more and watch God become red hot in your life.

2nd Corinthians 13:5; Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you fail to meet the test!

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Personal Growth-Three Keys to Success In Life

As a coach I have attended many coaching clinics through the years to gain knowledge, experience and grow my skill set to help my athletes get better.  One of my favorite all time coaches and speakers is Lu Holtz who had a fabulous career coaching, speaking and as a broad caster for football games.  He was a program builder and did a super job everywhere he went.  I had the pleasure of meeting him and getting a picture with him several years ago at a football clinic in Atlanta, GA.  He is a motivational coach and person that has so much experience in life and is a winner.  The quote above hit home with me today as I was surfing the web to prepare for writing and I wanted to share it with my people.


In this quote he is talking about three things that are key to winning, overcoming, preparing and doing well in sports and life.  The first of these is Ability which is important as part of success and winning.  We all have natural God given ability and some that we have developed through the years as we practice, prepare, study, learn and work towards our goals in life.  We must take these abilities and maximize them to be the best we can. Motivation is the second part of this success formula and that comes from mostly within ourselves.  We find motivation from others around us, our coaches, teammates and friends.  But the final say on how motivated a person can be is a individual decision.


Football coaches stand before team and give a motivational fire and brim stone speech to the guys designed to fire them up and give  them confidence and motivation to play hard.  That fired up speech will last about the first 3-5 minutes of the game and then it becomes a game of will and who wants to  win more than the other.  Finding motivation when things get tough is the hard part.  Finding motivation when you are down is the hard part.  Finding a way to motivate your friends and get them fired up during battle is an art.  


Attitude determines how you will succeed in life, sports, work and play.  I was talking to my students today in class and we were discussing life skills and how attitude keeps us  going and helps define who we are and where we go in life.  The old saying is “you can either see the glass half full or half empty”.  I used a half full water bottle as the prop and we talked about that for a few minutes.  I want my students to understand that they determine their attitude and no one else.  We started class out with a simple paper that had five faces on it.  One was smiling, one frowning, one neutral, one crying and one really happy.  I told them to circle where they were at that point with attitude.  After we did the exercise and talked about it I had them repeat the activity.  


Several of them actually changed their picture from frowning or mad to a more happy face.  I suggest you print one of these off the internet and put it on your mirror or fridge so you have to decide how you will take on your day.  Will you start the day glass half full or glass half empty?  Take your ability and use it to become better.  Motivate yourself to accomplish great things and go after life with an attitude of excellence and intention.

Faith- Finding Courage In Challenging Situations

You will be put in challenging situations and at times feel overwhelmed and let down. Life will let you down at times and often it is when we are either at the top of our game or at the lowest point.  When we are facing our darkest moments and weakest moments due to life events we must focus on God and look for an outcome that is positive. To make it positive we have to have faith and believe that the process of overcoming challenging times is going to be dealt with head on and with courage.

Challenging events in our lives are part of the process of growing, becoming more than what and who we are.  God wants us to be strong, have faith and walk through life with his light shining.  Life will knock you down and beat you up bad if you let it. We live our best life and know that the things we face in life such as losing a job, losing family, broken families, health crisis and other things make us stronger. God will never put us through something we cannot handle and is right there by our side helping us with it. He is carrying us through it and knows the outcome if we follow him and trust in his process.

The bible tells us that God will not put us through anything we cannot handle, but doing it on our own often leads to more trouble, anger, strife and fear.  Ask God to help you, guide you and lead you and he will.  These times cause us to have all of these emotions and can make us mentally and physically sick. Tough times can also make us spiritually sick which allows the Devil to step in and cast doubt, anger and frustration. When times get hard, we must fight back and seek God for his grace, guidance and mercy.

You will look back and laugh at those times knowing it was all a step forward in your spiritual journey.  Even though it may have felt like a step backwards at the time. What seemed like a step in the wrong direction can often be the steps forward that propel us to become stronger in our faith and relationships with family, friends and God. When it gets tough, fight back. When times challenge you, push back. When a crisis happens in life, step up to the challenge. When life kicks you in the teeth, call on God and overcome!

Faith- What If

Today I was reading the word of God and was thinking about “what if”. As a parent I have always been a “what if” kind of person. What if we do this or do not. What if the kids do this or that? Everything we do in life has good or bad consequences and that also applies to our faith in God. It applies to our relationship with God. What if a person chooses to look away from Gods grace? What if they choose to think that there is no God? What if they die and have not accepted Jesus into their hearts? These are the questions many people ask and have been talked about for hundreds if not thousands of years in churches, revivals and Christian culture.

So I am using Bible verses to show people the value of answering the question of “what if” you do not know Jesus and God and pass away. According to the Bible it states that a person that dies will have two outcomes for their spiritual journey when they leave their physical body.

Daniel 12:2; States that “And many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, and some to shame and everlasting contempt”. 2nd Corinthians 5:10; States that “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil”. These tell us that after the physical life of the body ceases the spirit continues to live and based on the decision of knowing God or not we get what we get. So I ask then to you. Are you willing to take a chance on the “what if” of passing from the physical into the spiritual world and facing purgatory or heaven.

It is a simple choice that we must make and live and die by. Choose God and choose life. Choose to not believe and you choose a fate that is horrible, unkind and like nothing you could ever face on the earth. We all have a good dog or a bad dog inside of us. We make choices to be a good dog or bad dog in life. And with those choices come the consequences of life everlasting in a heavenly way or facing the devil in hell. I once spoke with a dear friend that was dying of cancer and he asked me about God a day or so before he passed.

I told him what I thought about God and how he was very important to me in life and after life. I asked him if he knew God and he told me he wasn’t sure about all that stuff. But then he told me he wanted to know. So I asked his “what if” you accept Jesus as your savior and die soon and go to heaven to see your family and friends that accepted him. Or the other side of the story which is “what if” you choose to take a chance on dying without knowing God and really do go to hell for eternity. We prayed and I read him some Bible versus and asked him to seek God and see what happened.

His wife called me and told me he wanted me to come see him the next day so I went by and we talked. He knew his time was short within days and he had to take the opportunity to see “what if” I accept Jesus as my savior. So we prayed and he asked Jesus into his heart, mind and soul. The chaplain also prayed and counseled him and we talked, cried and laughed for a few hours. Later that night about four hours I was driving home and a street light popped on and off a few times and I sensed that he had died and moved on. I called his wife and she told me that he had just taken his last breath and passed away after a long sturggle.

She thanked me and told me that just before he died he looked up and smiled and said “God” and his life ended. His wife had no doubt that God had come and taken him to heaven for everlasting life. It was a wonderful ending to a good mans life. He was a loving father, son, brother and husband. He was what God describes in the Bible as a good man. However, prior to him deciding to take the chance and roll the dice on the “what if” I die and do not know Jesus all of that would not have mattered for his eternal life. I pray anyone reading this, whether you agree or not seek God’s council.

Give it a try by praying, reading the word and talking to those that know God. It is your choice to choose which “what if” and your consequences to that choice. I choose God because I know his miracles, his power, his grace and his influence in my life. Thank You Dear God for helping me see the “What if” factor and helping others to potentially see it as well!

John 5:24; Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life.

Romans 6:23; For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Revelation 20:14; And if anyone’s name was not found written in the book of life, he was thrown into the lake of fire.

Spirit Chronicles: Book of Life and the Cross

I had a dream where I saw a man and this man was familiar to me. I have seen him many times in my dreams and visions the last five months. He is an older spirit that is very strong and good. He is ancient and dates back way beyond anything I can imagine. He stepped at me slowly and just looked at me and smiled. Then he stepped back and was gone. Just before seeing him I heard a negative voice say “your not worthy” to me. This is part of the battle between good and evil that is taking place in the spirit realm. I have been changed and as I transform the devil will mess with me trying to get in the way of God’s plan for my life and eternal life.

I paid the voice no mind and told it to get away from me because I know I am worthy and that God walks with me daily taking care of me. After the voice told me that the old man showed up and smiled at me. He soothed me and made me feel protected as soon as I saw him. I then saw a very old tattered and torn book. This book was ancient and had hundreds of thousands of pages in it. It was probably two feet tall minimum and about a foot wide. In this book were pages with names in languages that I did not recognize or could read. But I knew what it said and recognized one of the names as John.

The page was written in what appeared to be ancient text with mostly symbols and I saw the name John and 23 AD. The next page was a different language and had a name I could not read or recognize and was from a very old time. This continued to happen page by page as the book pages moved one by one at a fast rate. The languages changed and I noticed some dates like 23 AD, 1451, 1670, 1803 and 1980. The names and script were going so fast by then that all I caught was a quick glimpse of the pages going by.

I knew the book was written by representatives of God and was a written testament to the people that had went to heaven over the thousands of years since Jesus was crucified on the cross. The languages represented all parts of the world, races, religions and backgrounds. I felt like my name was in the book at the very end and I was looking for my name of one of someone I may know. Then the book vanished and I saw myself standing there beside a beautiful park where there were three trees. They were identical to one another and about 50 feet tall.

Just below the trees was a small stream that ran with wonderful flowing water for such a small stream. I then saw a cross about three feet tall made of a shiny material like ivory and a round headstone beside it made of precious metal. I did not see a name on the stone and as I walked closer to it the scenario changed and I found myself looking at beautiful clouds and the sky. It was like heaven right there and I am not sure if the stone was representative of me or if it was a reminder that God takes care of his chosen ones and those that chose him.

I woke up and wrote this all down and began to pray and thank God for his messages, dreams and visions. The night before I was shown 180 and understand the significance of that from God and Angels. If you want to see that check my blog or listen to it live on my anchor podcast. I have read the Bible about it and did some research and the cross and stone represent stability of Jesus and his gift on the cross and how safe we are in life or death as long as we know him. The three trees represent the crosses and the holy trinity of Christ.

The 180 is a cross roads of life where you decide to fully dive into being of the light and doing Gods work. The cross backs that up and tells you that God in spirit is ready for me to grow, expand and prepare to do his bidding and work. God gave me a gift and I plan to use that gift to help people and lost souls find him.

Spirit Chronicles: The Elevator to Hell

I have a crew of demons that have been assigned to me to try and make me turn from God. As I have begun to transform and become closer to God everyday they have on occasion came at me trying to tempt me into their bidding and to use my ability and gift for bad. God gave me a gift and I fully intend to use it for his glory and to help people, not hurt them or destroy lives. Last night his four henchmen showed up in my dream again trying to mess with me. They taunt me, tease me and laugh at me. They know I am of the light and a light warrior for God and it pisses them off. They know who is in charge and that they will never see Gods glory as they have chosen a life of sinfulness and destruction that lead them to be demonic entities.

The leader is about 5’10 and 240 pounds. He appears to be about mid 40’s and dresses in a gray suit with a vest. He is a heavy smoker and a real smart ass. His two henchman are about mid 30’s and wear all black suits with black shirts and black glasses. Sounds like men in black, but these guys are mean and nasty. The last one is the muscle, he is the scariest one standing over 7 feet tall and weighing in excess of 500 pounds. He never talks, but looks mean as hell and uses his body to block me from trying to see good light when dealing with them. He has also appeared as a coach in a dream, a security guard and as a genie type character. He is big and mean and the muscle of this demonic crew.

I saw people walking towards a freight elevator like you would see in an old building back in the day. One by one they entered the elevator. The doors would open, the two guys in black would lead them in and the leader would just stand there and eat and smoke and laugh. The big guy was on constant watch trying to make sure the people did as they were told. I knew who they were and that they were bad so I backed away and tried to tell some of the people to not go to the elevator. The cop like guy looked at me and blew smoke out and told me he would get me at some point. He pointed at me and said, the “only way to become what you want is to meet the master”. He is obviously referring to meeting the Devil.

Those poor souls were stepping into the elevator and it only went down. It was dark, lonely and isolated and they had fallen for this line he was given. I have no intention of ever meeting the Devil much less working with or for him. I told them to stay away from me in the name of God and that made them even madder. Demons will laugh at you, make fun of you and tease you. When you name God as your primary defense and call on him the get very mad and will go away. God has control over all Demons and the closer you get to God the farther they will distance themselves from you. The further you stray from God the more they will come at you trying to break you and make you a lost soul. I sent them away and as they left they laughed and moved on. I backed away and woke up.

The world is full of evil and good. It is in a constant battle for souls and people. The spiritual realm is there and not for the weak to mess with. It takes all a light warrior has to fight these things off and dispatch them back to where they came from. I pray that God lift me up, protect me and keep me safe and secure. I am a light warrior, a dreamer, a visionary and it is all for God because he has a plan for my life and wants me to help others. Keep your eyes on God, keep your heart on good and fight evil or it will take your soul.

James 4:7; Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

Ephesians 6:11; Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.

Spirit Chronicles: The Abandoned Apartments and Walking Dead

Let me start by saying the “walking dead” were not what you may have seen in your head with zombies walking around wondering and looking for someone to attack and eat alive. In this dream the walking dead were lost souls that were aimlessly wondering around this old apartment complex that had been abandoned many years ago. The apartments are now in ruins and no one lives there with the exception of a few homeless folks that break in and gather there. I dreamed that people were living there and going about there daily lives going in and out of apartments, kids playing outside and people leaving for work. I saw an old lady that appeared to be in her late 80’s and she was walking by people looking at them and trying to talk to them.

The living were just walking by and could not see, hear or feel her when she tried to communicate with them. I saw an old man in his 70’s and he was sitting on a porch in a swing and just looking at the kids playing out in the courtyard of the apartments chasing one another. He was pointing to them to ask for help but they could not hear, see or feel him. I saw a man laying on the ground holding a liquor bottle who had died of alcohol abuse and homelessness just whimpering softly wanting someone to help him. Down the road a few apartments I saw a young girl that was hiding behind a car and when a car came down the driveway she would run out in front of it as if she was residual energy from being runover and she was re-living that moment over and over everyday.

Then a group of walking dead people came from the woods and there were several people of all ages and they looked to be a family. They emerged and just walked across the street into one of the abandoned units that had fire damage and disappeared as they went into the door. Another young mother was walking around looking for her children and couldn’t get anyone to help her. She was looking everywhere trying to find them and was constantly moving trying to figure it out. There were others there, some dead some not and they were not aware of each other. The walking dead were in the spirit realm and the others were the people that had left residual energy at that apartment complex over time.

It was a sad place had experienced lots of tragedy with crime, murders, homelessness, fires, poverty and accidents. It was full of energy and the lost walking dead did not know they were gone so they just relived their lives in spirit or walked around aimlessly trying to get help. I was up the road a bit observing and one walked over to me and touched me on the arm and I felt her and the others realized that I could see them, hear them and sense them so here they came. The grief, fear, anger, frustration and desperation of them all was overwhelming and took most of my energy. They were coming at me from all sides, not trying to physically hurt me but to ask me for help. I tried to block them but they were all strong and too numerous so I began to help them by saying “go to the big light” and seek God. One by one I saw them start to disappear as if they were being taken away one by one.

A few continued to wonder around even after I tried to help them while most just left and moved on from there continuous cycle of being a lost and wondering soul. I woke up and was very tired as this was harrowing experience that required a lot of my energy. As my gift grows, so does the responsibility and opportunity to help others I see in my dreams, visions and sometimes night mares.

Coaching: Five Ways to Identify A Quitter

Quitting in life is a habit that people learn from an early age. As they get older and grow up they learn that it is OK to quit sports teams, school, jobs and on family. There are signs that will give you an idea that someone is about to quit on you, your company, your relationship, your family, their kids, their job and life. I talk to my students about this a personal dilemma they may face in life. As a wrestling coach I see it every year. Kids quit mostly because wrestling is hard, practice is tough and it requires a winning attitude to face down all the potential serbacks it offers. I had a kid quit this week after a few minutes. He asked me to join the team so I let him come out. We warmed up doing some tumbling and exercises and within 20 minutes he asked to go to the bathroom and never came back.

I saw him today and asked him what happened and instead of just telling me it was hard or he didn’t like it he gave me a bunch of excuses about he had to go home, his mom called, etc. I asked him to come back and well, he must have forgot because I have not seen him since. I know why he quit because it is hard. Wrestling is a very mentally and physically challenging sport. It was hard so he walked away. He gave up on it. He quit without a good effort. He gave into his self doubt. He was lazy and wasn’t used to the effort required. I am not sure which one of these is the real answer but I do know that this kid has quit more than one sport, quit on clubs and other groups at school. He has learned a behavior and built a habit that it is OK to just walk away.

There is a likely hood that when he becomes an adult he will quit on jobs, family, friends, and give in when life gets tough. Quitting on life blocks people from being there best. They think it is the easy way out, but reality is it just makes things worse. Quitters show signs and could see them in this kid as he was stopping during team activity, wanting to go get extra water, sitting around while the others were standing up. I saw the signs but still tried to save him. I wanted him to stay, overcome and be a better person and athlete. But he choose to quit, walk away and give in. Below are some signs that someone may be getting ready to quit on you.

1- They stop working hard or hardly give an effort.

2- They quit attending functions, events, meetings and required activity.

3- They have a change of attitude about work, life and play.

4- They want it easy and desire instant gratification.

5- They show weakness physically, mentally and spiritually.

My dad always told me that winners never quit and quitters never win. That still stands for me today and I hope more of the younger parents begin to teach their kids to stick with things. Give things a fighting effort. Work hard and work smart for what you desire. Not just give up, quit, walk away, shut down, run from problems and be a quitter.

Coach B

Sports: Five Stitches and a County Title- Winners Never Quit, Quitters Never Win

Five Stitches and a County Title- Winners Never Quit, Quitters Never Win

When I was fourteen years old I had a ball game on a Saturday afternoon and it was a huge game.  I grew up playing football, basketball and baseball and after advancing into pony league ball I was a pitcher for the local school team.  Back in the day everyone played for their local elementary school distinct teams regardless of age.  Most started playing coach pitch, then moved to pee wee.  Next came a little league where the competition started getting better.  Then came pony league and at the time that was the oldest ages in my county about 12-14 years old.  I loved playing baseball and was a big kid so I learned to pitch the ball when I was little so I could use my size to an advantage.  

By the time I reached pony league I was 14 years old in the 8th grade and stood 6’0 and weighed 190 pounds,  Back in the late 1970’s that was a big kid for the age.  Now kids are like 6’2 240 at that age and many claim it is hormones in the hamburgers.  I just think kids just have gotten bigger over time as advances have been made in sports training, foods, and eating habits.  Anyways here I am on the big day.  A day I had worked for since I was seven years old.  I was the number one pitcher on the team, I was the ace on the mound and had a great season going.  Well, the morning of the county championship game I was in the dirt road playing with some friends and as I rode down the road on my bike a local dog ran under my wheel throwing me off the bike over the handlebars.

If you have ever experienced that you will know that crushed granite rocks on a dirt gravel road are not very forgiving with the skin.  The skin loses that fight and my hands, elbows and face got all scratched up.  I got up and went into the house to show my dad waiting on him to get me for being stupid on a game day and not relaxing like I should have.  Mom checked me over and my left (glove) hand had a big cut.  A cut under my thumb that would require stitches.  The game was at 5:00pm across the county and it was like 2:30pm.  Mom took me to the doctors office and they put five stitches in my glove hand, cleaned the wound and sent me home.  I was mad because the doctor said not to play that day because I would tear the stitches out and get an infection.

Well, we went home dressed and all the time my dad was very quiet and not saying much,  I could tell he was concerned about my hand, but also the team as I was the number one pitcher.  I was 8-0 that season in games and was scheduled to face the best team we would see all season in that championship game.  They had a pitcher that was really good also and he could really throw the ball hard for a 13 year old 7th grader.  He was tall and lanky and could bring the heat with an occasional breaking ball.  I was a fire baller.  I threw heat and tried to move the ball around and had no off speed pitch.  

We load up, get dressed and drive across the county 30 minutes to the game site.  Back then we had home phones so none of the boys or parents knew I was hurt until we pulled in and got out and here I am standing there with a wrapped up hand.  I instantly saw the stress on my teammates’ faces and tried to field their barrage of questions as to what happened, could I play, who was going to pitch for us.  My dad and a family friend named Leon were the coaches so they started warming up my friend Chris and he was a pretty good pitcher also.  He wasn’t very fast but threw strikes.  Chris warmed up and I begged him to let me play.  She told me the doctor said no game today.  

As fate would have it I was standing there beside the other pitcher talking to him and our catcher threw the ball back a little wildly and it came right at me. Out of instinct I reached out and snagged the ball with my glove and in the process the stitches out of my hand.  And it didn’t hurt too bad (well honestly it hurt bad) but I wasn’t going to tell.  I proceeded to warm up and get ready for the game.  My friend got real nervous and started the game and after a few batters was in trouble.  All I could do was stand and watch in the dugout with my torn stitches and open cut.  Chris ended up having to come out and we were in a bind with nobody better than him. I told my dad to let me throw.  If I hurt bad enough I would walk away, hand him the ball and we could go with put #3.  

I walked to the mound, threw a few warmup pitches and the catcher threw the ball back to me very easy each time.  The umpire called the game back into action and here I am on the mound 8-0 with no outs and bases loaded.  I had a torn hand, busted stitches and was hurting real bad.  I looked at my glove and many years earlier my dad had written this in the glove.  “Winners never quit and quitters never win”..  It hit me that I had to do this, I had to take one for the team,  I had to survive and try to help us win.  I went on to pitch the best game of the season.  Struck out three straight batters to end the first inning and avoid any runs crossing the plate.  I finished the game with ten strikeouts and no hits allowed with one walk.  

We dominated the game and won 16-0 in five innings of play called due to the lead being more than 10 runs after five innings.  My teammates did a great job making a few key outs when the ball was hit by the opposing team and we smashed the ball at the plate for 16 runs.  I was the #4 hitter in the lineup (cleanup hitter).  I didn’t bat until the 4th inning as a teammate pinch hit for me.  I went to the plate with my old wooden monster named bomber.  Tom, the opposing pitcher, had gotten tired and walked the bases full.  Well, he hung one of his curveballs over the plate and I got it all.  Old bomber sent it over the left field fence for a grand slam which made the score 10-0 and blew it wide open for the win.  This story is not about how great a pitcher or hitter I was.  It is about the power of positive thinking, working hard and pushing through life events that can get in the way.  Winners never quit and quitters never win!

Coach B!

Advice: Life Skills That Prepare Kids for Real Life

I have been teaching for a long time and one thing I have observed more lately than in the past is that teenagers are not learning life skills that they will need as an adult. These life skills are needed so they can function and be productive as they get out of school and pursue their dreams and goals. Lots of people joke about it, but you would be surprised at the amount of kids that do not know how to do many of the things listed below. For those that teach your kids these life skills. Good for you and congratulations on teaching them how to be responsible, accept accountability in life and grow their life skills. Below are things my mom and dad taught me growing up and these skills are still needed for our current kids and teenagers.

As they get older, give them more and more responsibility and teach them how being accountable is important in life. You will not always be there, be around or be able to do it for them. Help them grow up knowing basic life skills needed for a successful life. These activities build confidence and grow their level of success by having transferrable life skills for the 21st Century.

1- Teach them how to cook. When I went to college and moved out I could cook more than Mac and Cheese or Ramen Noodles. Cooking requires the use of memory, measuring and other life skills. It teaches them to adapt, make changes and fix things as they go.

2- Teach them to do their own laundry. I know moms hate to do all that laundry (until their kid goes off to college). Teach them to do laundry, to fold and sort laundry. Teach them to take care of their clothes because they are expensive.

3- Teach your children and teenagers to be fiscally responsible with money. They need to learn to save money, learn about spending habits, how to manage credit and other financial matters. Worst thing a young adult can do is go into the world and not manage money smartly. Teaching them now will help them to be more financially sound as adults.

4- Teach them how to type on a computer, laptop and write a letter. They need to know the difference in text talk and actually professional talk required to complete a resume for jobs and careers. LOL, IDK, Yo and all that other text talk does not cut it on the job or on an application.

5- Teach them how to be active and healthy. Being healthy is important and is part of an active lifestyle that will allow them to have the energy and wellness to be successful in life. They do not have to be a gym rat or real fit. Just have good exercise patterns and activity in life.

6- Teach them the value of hard physical labor. Get them off the video games, off the couch and into the yard to cut some wood. Cleanup the yard, mow, pick up trash, trim the bushes and other things that will teach them that hard physical labor and the ability to use tools is a good thing. Many young people can make a great living with tools, trades and good labor skills.

7-Teach them accountability. Your kids must learn to be held accountable in life for their thoughts, actions, comments, reactions and behaviors. Not teaching them discipline and accountability will disable them later in life. Enable them by making sure they understand every action good or bad has a life consequence.

8- Teach them to dress correctly. There is a time and place or flip flops, chill clothes and shades. There is also a time for dressing to the occasion, having clean and neat clothes on. Like going to get a job, an interview and going to church.

9- Teach them how to do basic repairs and maintain a car. Teenagers need to know how to change a tire. How to fix a lose screw. How to use a drill, a hammer, drive nails, build things and tear things down. This can spur an interest in a career and save them lots of money as adults when they need to do basic repairs at home.

10- Teach them good time management skills. Do not be that parent that is always late and getting your kids to school right when the bell rings. Get them out of bed early, get them off to school, sporting events, practice. dance class and all that other stuff on time. Teach them to be early 15 minutes so they do not build a habit of being late for school, work, and appointments.

11- Teach them how to clean. Cleanliness is important and a life skill they will need when they have an apartment, condo or home, Untidy and unclean homes breed disease and laziness. Make them do the dishes, clean their room, wash clothes, mow yards, and other stuff adults assume they cannot do. If they do not do their chores then discipline them.

12- Teach them to do volunteer work. Work with them to develop the skills to help others, serve the community and other people. Serving and helping others is becoming a lost skill and one that everyone needs at times. This teaches them to put other above themselves and will humble them to see that others have it worse than they do.

13- Teach them manners and respect. Teach your kids to be nice, thankful, gracious, kind hearted and positive. Teach them to say yes sir, yes mam, no mam, no sir, please and thank you. These words will get them respect, impress people and help them find and keep a job. Nobody likes a disrespectful little brat!

14- Teach them the value of family and friends. Kids need to know that family and friends are the number one source of help, support, and well being. We all need some type of family “blood kin or otherwise” to help guide us and take care of our emotional needs.

15- Lastly, teach your kids that setting goals, working hard, acting in a positive manner, being nice, being helpful, being a go getter and other life skills is needed for them to be successful at whatever they want or desire. Nobody owes your kids anything in life so make sure they are equipped with the life skills to pull it off and pursue their dreams and goals.

Your kids, teenagers, sons, daughters, siblings, cousins, friends and family will likely exhibit the behaviors that you model for them. What is allowed will persist is an old saying a great coach and mentor once told me. What he was saying to me as a young coach and teacher was “Coach, if you let them do what they want, do not teach them about accountability then you are modeling bad behavior, ideals, actions, thoughts and speech”. They in turn will act the same way and fail at life until they figure it out, hopefully not before it is too late.

Blessings on a skilled and wonderful life for your kiddos!

Coach B

Advice: Four Ways to Live Your Best Life

We all desire to live a prosperous life filled with excitement, fun and vigor. Finding out how to accomplish that is not always easy as we do this daily grind called life. Below are four ways to be on the way to a full life, a prosperous life and wonderful results from it. Live your life and do it the best you can.

  1. Be your best self physically, spiritually and emotionally. To be your best self you have to feel good about things. Are you physically able to live your best life and if not, what changes can you make to correct that. Are you spiritually sound and grounded in faith? Regardless of who you worship you need a firm foundation to lean on and seek guidance and help from. Are you emotionally stable to pursue life and move forward. If any of these are lacking and need work then get with it and start the process of fixing them now.
  2. Take an accounting of yourself and your attitudes. What is your attitude towards life, people, work and play? Do you need to make adjustments to that attitude and improve it so you can live your best life.
  3. Identify and fix bad habits. What bad habits do you have and can you correct them to live your best life. Eating habits, exercise habits, alcohol, smoking, drugs, and other things can get in the way of living your best and longest life. Change what you can and slowly work to become a better version of yourself.
  4. Set your intentions and goals. What is it you want to do and how will you get there? Living your best life is different for everyone so set your intentions and goals towards that ultimate life experience.

Proverbs 16:9; The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.

Coach B