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Personal Growth-Three Keys to Success In Life

As a coach I have attended many coaching clinics through the years to gain knowledge, experience and grow my skill set to help my athletes get better.  One of my favorite all time coaches and speakers is Lu Holtz who had a fabulous career coaching, speaking and as a broad caster for football games.  He was a program builder and did a super job everywhere he went.  I had the pleasure of meeting him and getting a picture with him several years ago at a football clinic in Atlanta, GA.  He is a motivational coach and person that has so much experience in life and is a winner.  The quote above hit home with me today as I was surfing the web to prepare for writing and I wanted to share it with my people.


In this quote he is talking about three things that are key to winning, overcoming, preparing and doing well in sports and life.  The first of these is Ability which is important as part of success and winning.  We all have natural God given ability and some that we have developed through the years as we practice, prepare, study, learn and work towards our goals in life.  We must take these abilities and maximize them to be the best we can. Motivation is the second part of this success formula and that comes from mostly within ourselves.  We find motivation from others around us, our coaches, teammates and friends.  But the final say on how motivated a person can be is a individual decision.


Football coaches stand before team and give a motivational fire and brim stone speech to the guys designed to fire them up and give  them confidence and motivation to play hard.  That fired up speech will last about the first 3-5 minutes of the game and then it becomes a game of will and who wants to  win more than the other.  Finding motivation when things get tough is the hard part.  Finding motivation when you are down is the hard part.  Finding a way to motivate your friends and get them fired up during battle is an art.  


Attitude determines how you will succeed in life, sports, work and play.  I was talking to my students today in class and we were discussing life skills and how attitude keeps us  going and helps define who we are and where we go in life.  The old saying is “you can either see the glass half full or half empty”.  I used a half full water bottle as the prop and we talked about that for a few minutes.  I want my students to understand that they determine their attitude and no one else.  We started class out with a simple paper that had five faces on it.  One was smiling, one frowning, one neutral, one crying and one really happy.  I told them to circle where they were at that point with attitude.  After we did the exercise and talked about it I had them repeat the activity.  


Several of them actually changed their picture from frowning or mad to a more happy face.  I suggest you print one of these off the internet and put it on your mirror or fridge so you have to decide how you will take on your day.  Will you start the day glass half full or glass half empty?  Take your ability and use it to become better.  Motivate yourself to accomplish great things and go after life with an attitude of excellence and intention.

Faith- Finding Courage In Challenging Situations

You will be put in challenging situations and at times feel overwhelmed and let down. Life will let you down at times and often it is when we are either at the top of our game or at the lowest point.  When we are facing our darkest moments and weakest moments due to life events we must focus on God and look for an outcome that is positive. To make it positive we have to have faith and believe that the process of overcoming challenging times is going to be dealt with head on and with courage.

Challenging events in our lives are part of the process of growing, becoming more than what and who we are.  God wants us to be strong, have faith and walk through life with his light shining.  Life will knock you down and beat you up bad if you let it. We live our best life and know that the things we face in life such as losing a job, losing family, broken families, health crisis and other things make us stronger. God will never put us through something we cannot handle and is right there by our side helping us with it. He is carrying us through it and knows the outcome if we follow him and trust in his process.

The bible tells us that God will not put us through anything we cannot handle, but doing it on our own often leads to more trouble, anger, strife and fear.  Ask God to help you, guide you and lead you and he will.  These times cause us to have all of these emotions and can make us mentally and physically sick. Tough times can also make us spiritually sick which allows the Devil to step in and cast doubt, anger and frustration. When times get hard, we must fight back and seek God for his grace, guidance and mercy.

You will look back and laugh at those times knowing it was all a step forward in your spiritual journey.  Even though it may have felt like a step backwards at the time. What seemed like a step in the wrong direction can often be the steps forward that propel us to become stronger in our faith and relationships with family, friends and God. When it gets tough, fight back. When times challenge you, push back. When a crisis happens in life, step up to the challenge. When life kicks you in the teeth, call on God and overcome!

Health- Getting Refocused on Weight Loss Goals

I began a weight loss journey around a year ago and tried various ways to lose some pounds I was carrying around with me for far too long. I worked out at the gym, drank water, cut out all sugar, eat veggies, walked and tried Keto and other plans. I always would lose some weight and then would plateau and get frustrated. In January of 2021 I had just gotten out of the hospital from a Covid sickness and had dropped about 15 pounds in an obvious unhealthy way. I just could not eat much and didn’t feel like eating at all so the pounds came off quickly and I looked terrible. I decided once I got my energy and appetite back that I would use that bad experience as a kick start to a healthier me.

I had eaten unhealthy for too long and honestly probably got Covid because I was a classic case of symptoms being overweight, diabetic and unhealthy. I almost died in that hospital and at that point I vowed to never go back to the old habits I had. Well that commitment is easier said than done. Talking about something and doing something about it are two different things. That is when I seen an old friend that had lost about 75 pounds and he looked amazing. He had completely changed his way of eating and living and I took his advice and began my weight loss journey. It was hard at first and still remains a challenge but with patience and perseverance I know I will accomplish my goals.

I began a plan and stayed on it solid for the first six weeks and by early June I had dropped about 40 pounds and was feeling so much better. I had went from 340 pounds to 300 and that was one of my biggest goals was to see that 300 pound marl again for the first time in over 25 years. Then I got sick and my wife got sick and it set me back a few weeks but I continued to fight and do the best I could and then I got down to 290. I was amazed that I was at that weight and I know that sounds like a lot of weight but to see that total was truly a blessing. Then a few things came about in life that began to set me back.

These things began to get in the way of my daily schedule I ran and how I was eating. I became less disciplined and was eating things I had gotten away from. I was starting to gain some weight back and was moving away from my goal instead of going towards it. Today I was 296.5 so I am up 6.5 pounds from where I was a few weeks ago. I looked in the mirror today and scolded myself a bit and told myself I had to be accountable for my actions and be disciplined when it came to managing my health, body, emotions, and actions. So I did some reading and found some tips that have helped me get back on track.

I will get back to the 290 mark and then head for 280. Then 270 and so on with an eventual goal of 220. It will take me over a year or maybe even longer to see 220 but I will do it if I follow the plan, stay on track, make good decisions and stay disciplined. Below is a list of ways you can get back on track if you get off target or track from reaching your weight loss and health goals. God Bless and I pray you all have a wonderful remaining and healthy 2021.

  1. Take a look at where you are and how you got there. If you set a goal look at it and see how you are doing towards it.
  2. Be honest with yourself and know that losing weight, getting healthy and correcting the mistakes of the past will not be easy and will come with bumps in the road.
  3. Refocus on your eating patterns, the foods you are digesting and how often you eat.
  4. Never eat when your famished. That causes you to over eat and gives you temporary satisfaction but is a big setback to goals.
  5. Drink a minimum of 64 ounces of water daily. Drinking lots of water is very healthy and also keeps you full.
  6. Avoid the pitfalls of old habits like eating fatty foods, greasy foods, and unhealthy snacks. These are the things that created the situation you are currently in so doing this only sets you back.
  7. Set new goals, track them by logging what you eat, weigh every now and then and watch the results take place.
  8. Stick to it. Do not give up. Do not make excuses. Do not let food overtake you. Stay focused and win the battle of the bulge!
  9. Pray for Gods guidance, grace and mercy in your life.
  10. Win by eating to live and not living to eat!