On June 5th, my wife and I will celebrate 29 years of marriage. I know couples that have been married seventy years and some that couldn’t make it one year. My parents got married in 1956 were together to the day my dad passed in 2009. That is a long time to be together, get on one anothers nerves and battle through lifes ups and downs. One thing I can say about my mom and dad is I never saw them argue. They had their share of them like any couple would but it was always behind closed doors and quiet as possible. What I did see in them as an example for me was love, compassion, support and they stood together against all obstacles.
Both of them had cancer and they stood strong and beat it together. Both of them worked fulltime and were parents and they always made time for us boys and the family. My dad was a big strong man with a strong will and tremendous work ethic. My mom was short in stature but was the rock that held us all together. She worked hard, taught us life skills and was always there to show support at our events, ballgames and stuff. My mom and dad were what my wife and I call ride or die mentality. We are in this thing together until the Lord decides it is time for one of us to go.
My wife and I love songs that represent us. Jack and Dianne, Living on a Prayer and others are athems that we love. Hard work, time, patience and faith are the underlying foundation of a great marriage, life and relationship. Commit to it and stand strong. Never turn your back on your spouse and keep your eyes, ears and mind off of other peoples spouses. If things get tough running away or walking out may not fix it. I know people that have been married 3-5 times and everytime it ends in divorce and bitter. As the great Michael Jackson says, start by “looking at the man in the mirror” when things get hard. You may find that the problem lies within yourself and not your partner.
1- Make time with one another and spend quality time. It is not about quantity, but quality. My wife and I have similiar interests and activities we share so doing that is important. I like scyfy and super hero movies and my wife loves those tear jerk movies. We watch them together and enjoy the moment.
2- Little things count. The small things you do count. The occasional tap on the butt, the quick kiss, telling them you love them, a quick text and random acts of kindness build trust and strength in a marriage.
3- Focus on one another while also maintaining a strong look at yourself. A strong marriage requires you to be selfless but it also needs time for each individual to be themselves and enjoy some alone time.
4- Faithful living is huge in a marriage. I do not know how any couple makes it through the things life throws at us without faith. Faith in God is huge for my wife and I and we honor the commitment we made almost 30 years ago on June 5, 1993 when we joined hands and made the commitment in Gods house to love, honor, encourage and take care of each other.
5- Look at examples around you. My parents, in-laws and grand parents are huge examples of a strong marriage that stood the test of time. Some of them were married for over seventy years. What I saw was two people working as one to accomplish life goals, dreams and make love a reality.
Stay strong, be faithful, love one another, hold tight, battle through things, build a solid rock foundation and keep God in sight and your marriage will blossom and be prosperous. Thus says the Lord and Me.
Genesis 2:24; Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Ephesians 5:21; Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Romans 12:2; Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.